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just wondering what you guys think about affairs, are they right or wrong ,as long as no one gets hurt i think what the hell go for it,get back to me on this one guys. guys i'm getting a lot of flack but i'n not having an affair or considering one just wanted to see peoples opinions

Bad move, some one always gets hurt.... Bev

WRONG Glad youre not my bloke Sean Elaine x

depends on the circumstances sean i think!!! When there is children involved it can cause alot of hurt and upset and its unfair on the children, every1 has their own opinions i know but if an affair is to happen, yhink of the children if there are any involved! Kaz

we discussed this at some length last week actually - personal opinion is that theyrre wrong, but there's sometimes a goodreason why they've happened - things aren't always black and white.

Sean I haven't had an affair, but I do know lots of people who have and I can tell you that nearly always at least 3 people get hurt. nell

Wrong. Once the trust has been betrayed things go from bad to worse and someone always gets hurt. Not only for the present time but the emotional scars reach way into the future.

Wrong. But an old man can always dream. Lol.

Hi all I think that it is only fair that if you want to embark on a new relationship that you end the first one prior to the new one. Its only fair and gives you both a chance to try to fix what's gone wrong. I think that staying together for the sake of children but having affairs on the side is awful. If you don't want to be with a partner then TELL THEM! Lynne

What is the point of an affair? If you are considering an affair that means there is something wrong in your relationship. So either sort out the problem or get out of the relationship so that you can both start afresh! Sarah x

We are obviously of the same opinion Lynne!

very wrong all that deceit.sean does that mean your in one.?xxxx(:

SOMEONE ALWAYS GETS HURT SEAN REGARDLESS!!!! KAZ

Its so very wrong Have the balls to tell the other party that you've fallen out of love with them. Doing the dirty behind someones back is spineless . Much happiness Debi

here,herexxxx(:

It amounts to "having your cake & eating it" I assume you like your cake then Sean ? E x

Well Sean , you really like to live dangerously, dont you !!?? (I can see this is going to be a very emotive subject). The important phrase in your question is " as long as no one gets hurt ". How do you measure pain ? How long is a piece of string ? (Or do you mean that its ok as long as no one finds out ?). Speaking for myself, and thats all i can do, i think that relationships are built on trust and mutual respect. Once one of the partners has destroyed this then its very difficult to get back what you had. (and i speak from experience here). The thing with affairs is that they are fun. Dangerous . Exciting. Illicit. In a few minutes you can ruin what it took years to build. Theres no right or wrong here - just say no! Elaine x. (married 24 years this year - and still going !)

Oh what an evil web you weave when you set out to deceive Lisa

sean all i can say i hope it happens to you one day.the boots on the other foot and all thatxxxxx(:

Wrong.. If nobody gets hurt? - Can you guarantee that 100%, it usually comes out and people do get hurt, badly hurt. Yes this has happened to me and 15 months down the line I'm still hurting and struggling with it all. And the fact my father did this will also always be with me - i'm over it but it will always be there. If you are considering an affair then there's something not right with your relationship - an affair will not fix that. You need to talk with your partner and work out what that is and then see if you both really want the relationship and both put the extra effort in to make it work. Talk, talk, talk. If it's not going to work then you can both walk away. When an affair happens, the damage is often irrapairable. The person cheated on never gets the chance to see what's coming and is left devastated. Kxx