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Heh heh. I have a hairbrush in the upstairs shower (fine thick straight longish hair, only way to get it untangled safely is in the shower after washing), a hairbrush in the downstairs bathroom, a hairbrush in my purse, a hairbrush in my living room goodie box under the coffee table (odd bits of drugs, cortisone for my psoriatic elbow, assorted trash, just the things I don't feel like getting up and going elsewhere for while we're watching teevee), a hairbrush in the bedside table, and hairbrushes wherever the hairbrushes are that have gone astray.

I decided years ago I was not going to be caught hairbrushless ever again! Also, once I find a variety of something I like, it tends to get discontinued, so I also decided years ago that I would stock up when I had the chance. (Ever tried looking for your lipstick colour when you only buy one once every three years or so?)

With her broken leg (she's now walking), my mum had gadgets. A floor-to-ceiling pole beside the bed for getting in and out, raised toilet seat, and bath transfer seat. Those raised toilet seats are odd when you don't need them -- but you do get used to them.

The extraterrestrial being deleted the thread in question, but has left the ... eleven others on the board. All about a Sam Steve surname

b a l k a m
b a l c o m b (e)

in case anybody remembers ... or wants to for next time.

Not one of the threads contains any indication of the being's relationship with the individuals in question. (One of the being's parents if from outside England, I know from googling, and there has never been a single request for help with searching on that side.) Or a single indication of doing any research themself (e.g. requests for 1881 census, info available at freebmd).

I'm sick to death of this one, I am. I really should just have reported that thread and made the obvious allegation. I don't expect any response to reports of duplicate threads, but commercial endeavours, perhaps. Next time.

I tend to ignore most of his nowdays but I see the one you had words with yesterday JC had now posted on LR....Oh I do dislike that board there is nothing you can do to warn people what has been found or suggested on previous threads.

Just been out in the wheelchair and got HID to join the Libary...bit different from when I last went it is all computerized...no more stamping the date when it has to be returned and a free hours internet a day (cannot see that being used)

Got a book for myself but not sure if I will read it...Its a biography of a person with same sort of MS as me that has gone to court to allow her to go to switzaland to kill her self if needs must and her husband will not be prosicuted.......ummm shall I or shant I read it?

ja...x

Jax I'm sure you could of found something a little more cheerie.

I know it's difficult and I have no right to judge but a bit of escapism is my type of book and would recommend Terry Patchett books for light relief.

Not that I have read anything since I have lived here, but I tend to read biographys anyway since I gave up Jackie Collins lol

I am not thinking about it myself Toots and hav'nt got a passport now anyway, but as she has the same flavour as me which is only about 15% of the MS population thought I would see how it has affected her...not interested in her fight with the courts...saw enough of that on the news

ja...x

I have got other hairbrushes but the one I lost was a styling brush - for fairly curly hair - that's why I really missed it. Mind you, I'm always losing something or other.


Back to the thrilling subject of toilet seats.....I must admit very odd for the fit and able to use but, it does save some strenth on the old arm muscles:)


Janey, if you're still around, can you describe the pole your mum had to help her get out of bed please? I take it it was a temporary measure?



Our library went computerized last year. It's okay but takes away the personal touch somewhat. I used to use their computers before I had Ancestry. It was helpful but a pain when your time ran out and someone else was waiting to use it :-(


Ja...x, have you ever thought of audio books? I have quite a large collection and listen to them when I'm ironing. They're really good if you can't hold a book for long but they do tend to send you to sleep if you're sitting listening. I have the collection of Brother Cadfael books by Ellis Peters read by Derek Jacobi and, a few years ago, sometimes listened to them instead of reading a book. There is one called St. Peter's Fair.........I don't think I got passed the opening sentence before I was zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz :-D

The pole sounds quite good...I could practise my pole dancing then :-D

Not into listening to anything not even got a CD player in the house unless I used my karaoke machine.

TV is on from 3 or4 pm until I finally go to bed anyway. When I first gave up work I did read a few books and I think I am still halfway through a couple, but not sure where HID has hidden them since we moved. As you say holding it could be a problem...will see how it goes I do get bored quite easily anyway.

ja...x

I'm glad to hear it Jax. I was a tad worried about the subject matter.

I can see how hearing about someone elses experiences can help.OH piles pillows up, just like he does with the laptop at the side of him and just turns the pages.

I always find with books that if it is well written, even when the subject matter isn't really my cup of tea, I can't put it down. However, even when it is something I am interested in, if it is badly written I am constantly putting it down and it is a struggle to read.

Well I hope it is going to be more about her life before MS and how it affects her now rather than the other. I do not mix with many people with MS because they have the other sort. I have an old school friend who I contacted last year who has MS but I dont want to see her. she rang last week after I had been avoiding her calls...but was caught off guard, I may have to change my number now :-(

Well I have got 3 weeks before it has to go back, I should have had it last night when I could'nt get on here (not that it looked like anything was going on) and could have read then

ja...x

I'm in contact with an old school friend who I hadn't seen for many years. It's good to talk to someone who I grew up with. She has a similar condition to my OH but we find we hardly ever talk about that. Nowadays its just ordinary stuff, like she is Liverpool FC's greatest fan ever since we were knee high to grasshoppers and I am not, so I will tease about only watching it for the legs etc.... Corrie and the likes and basically just having a laugh. I go and visit her when I go back to Mum's.

The pole -- floor to ceiling and a good diameter for gripping (not thin, not too thick, maybe 3 inches in diameter).

It was extendable like a shower curtain rod and I have to say I didn't check whether it was held in place by pressure, like a shower curtain rod, or screwed in.

It would have to be pressure, I think, because it was on carpet.

She was renting from the ... oh, these arrangements here are so &^%$ complicated. We were supposed to get more assistance for independent living when they came in, but it's a dog's breakfast. There's an agency that supplies them free for a very brief period then if you want to rent them you do it through the private company they deal with.

The pole was something like $20 a month -- which would have covered the entire purchase price in less than 4 months, as I calculated it.

I think she'd recommend it. It was placed so she could grip it while still in bed and use it to help sit up if she'd needed, I imagine, and then swing her legs out and use it to transfer to her wheely chair. So with her sleeping on the right side of the bed (as you look at the bed from the foot of it), she used her left arm (the one on the edge of the bed) to grip it, while seated toward the foot of the bed from the pole. Just trying to get at how it was up close to the head of the bed, maybe 18" from the head of the bed?, not in the middle of it, so it didn't interfere with getting in or out.


You sound like me, with listening to things. I am not aural, totally visual. It doesn't matter how interesting a lecture might be, for instance, my mind wanders off somewhere else ... The only place it works is in the car, where I have something else I have to think about (driving!) to occupy enough of my head that the rest can stay focused on the radio.

jax this isn't local to you but it gives you the idea

http://www.rehabmart.com/category/Bed_Assist_Rails,_Handles,_Poles.htm

I don't know what the deal is with the first one, so cheap -- the others down the page (after the halfway point) are all way more than that, up around $200 and more.

But I imagine you'd have assistance for getting one?


edit - yeah, that first one comes in two parts, total about $85, so that's probably like what my mum had

http://www.rehabmart.com/product/guardian-safetpole-26027.html

doesn't really explain how it works (doesn't mar surfaces ...) but hers was quite solid as far as I could tell.

Thanks for that Janey. Just wondering if it will help OH maybe in the future. Will look into it.

whoops. That was you, Cynthia. Ah, you're just too self-effacing and modest to get noticed ......

:-D

I dont think I can bring myself to read back on your posts today....hair brushes...what the??

Cyns...now we all you know you want that pole for dancing ;-)

Thanks JC had a look and cannot see anything like that in this country, If it made a mark on the ceilings I would'nt be allowed to have one anyway...house being a private rental. Need something to hold onto getting in and out of the bath saw one that clamps to the side so as long as it does not damage anything I will get one of those.

This person has been a friend for 40 yrs infact we were best friends for years Toots. The last time she called me before the recent call I am sure she was drunk and I do not want to have to deal with someone like that turning up on my doorstep whenever...sounds mean but I have enough problems without being lumbered with hers aswell...I remember what she was like when I last saw her 10 years ago at a small school reunion stumbling around a large well known shopping area in the afternoon...I cannot cope with that now

ja...x

Drunks ... nope.

Just. Say. No.

It's the only way to deal with them -- don't deal with them.

Not unless they're yer parent or spouse or child, or you're paid to do it!

And sometimes even then. ;-)

I did the same search at google.co.uk

bed pole assistance

and got this, for instance

http://www.handyhealthcare.co.uk/mobility-aids/moving/patient-transfer/

http://www.livingmadeeasy.org.uk/bedroom/floor-fixed-or-floor-to-ceiling-grab-handles-p/superpole-0031952-432-information.htm

Wowsers, expensive.


Any mobility assistance store or website should have info about what's available, though.

My mum has a grab bar in her shower that suctions to the wall. She wondered about how strong it would be but stepfather 2 is a big guy and withstood his weight.

Cyns

You will have a local NHS Community Loan Equipment Service. You can ask them for advice, they come and assess and then fit what ever for free

Huh they did'nt have those on the site I looked at JC

I have thought about those suctioned grab bars LK but there is no where on the tiled part of the wall that it would help. I have to get in and out in the middle of the bath as there is a sink unit one end and a waste of space bidet at the other. There is also no wall in the middle there is a window, if it was my place I would turn it into a wet room...I am sure the owners would not agree to that as the suite does not look that old.

ja...x